Whether you have children or not, by choice or by circumstance, shapes your life in countless ways. One path is not necessarily better than the other, but the differences between the two can cause friction.
We’ve previously told HuffPost readers who don’t have children that parents’ mental health issues range from acting like they have a “monopoly to fatigue and stress” to not making an effort to keep their children quiet in restaurants and other public places. asked them to reveal serious actions. (You can read the rest of the answers here.)
We recently posed the same question to parents, asking them what the behavior of non-parents frustrates them the most. Read what they have to say.
They compare being a pet owner to raising children.
“I’ve loved dogs ever since I was little, and I still love cats, but neither of those can compare to raising my son.” Naomi R.
“If you leave your child at home with a bowl of water and food while you go out all day, the Department of Children, Youth and Families may remove the child from you while Fido is perfectly fine. We’re going to have to separate you.’ It’s okay. It’s not the same at all. ” — Jessica M
When they say, “If I had kids, I would never…”
“It’s like, ‘If I have kids, I’m never going to let them have a screen.'” When you actually have kids, it’s a whole different ball game. Everyone is a perfect parent until they actually become a parent! ” — Jennifer H.
When someone asks you to hire a babysitter.
“They always say, ‘Just get a babysitter,’ as if it’s that simple, or as if they just want to immediately reduce the time they spend with their children. ” — Dani D.
“Can I get a sitter?” Well, no, I can’t just go up to a stranger and suddenly ask them to watch my kids, and I can’t trust that situation. Sitters are hard to find and they aren’t cheap, so do you really need to go? ” — Nicole D.
Or when you are told that you can bring your child to an event or outing.
“While that may seem like a no-brainer, there are many factors why it doesn’t really work when you have kids.” — Bettina F.
When your child comments on what is or isn’t on your child’s plate.
“I get annoyed when people say, ‘They eat what you’re eating!’ If they’re hungry, they’ll eat!” This may be true for some children, but for me A nervous child will definitely starve. ” — Ashley W.
“When they say, ‘My child will never eat nuggets or macaroni and cheese,’ they probably have a well-developed palate.” Well, every parent develops a restaurant-quality menu. It’s not like you have time to prepare. And let kids be kids. ” — Laura M
Or when you are asked how you are feeding your baby.
“Why not suggest to exclusively breastfeeding mothers who are reluctant to leave their child overnight, why not leave the formula alone?” – Lisa G.
“When you say to the parents of a formula-fed baby, ‘Why don’t you breastfeed?'” Laura M
“You don’t know why I don’t breastfeed, and you don’t know what’s in that bottle. You don’t know why I don’t breastfeed. You don’t know why I don’t breastfeed, and you don’t know what’s in that bottle. They only make enough bottles to make it into a supplement, or they try it and it doesn’t work. Who knows, and that’s none of their business.” Nicole D.
When they expect your undivided attention.
“Parents of young children often forget that they can’t have long conversations. And they get frustrated and angry that parents have to take care of their children.” Kay F.
Or maybe you get hurt for not being as punctual as you used to be.
“Comments like, ‘Ever since I became a parent, I’m always late!'” Erica S
When they are unaware of your financial situation.
“What do you mean you can’t afford to travel abroad every year?” — Rachel M.
When you change your plans at the last minute.
“Not only do I have to arrange myself, but I have to hire a sitter. If I don’t stick to the plan, they won’t come.” Sarah P.
When I was taught how to discipline a child.
“That spanking is a way to discipline a child. Otherwise, if your child won’t eat, let them starve.” — Kathy L.
When they make snap judgments about your parenting decisions.
“Just opinions and comments about parenting. 5 second snaps about the situation with no knowledge of history or context or what this motherfucker was doing this morning leading up to this moment at the grocery store. Take a guess, Karen.” — Tiffany G.